The Mommy Where's My Dad Origin Story
Raising a child is hard. Raising a child without two full time parents is harder. You’re tired, a lot. You’re overwhelmed, anxious, and you don’t have anyone to partner with to decide what is in their best interest. So, it’s you. All you. And you learn to trust your own decisions, and you hope they are all right.
When I stepped into parenthood myself, I questioned whether or not I could give my son everything he deserves and whether what I had to offer would ever be enough. I felt the weight of responsibility I carried – to nurture someone who is healthy, grounded, mature, and strong. And so much more. I was resilient, but this one challenge I feared I could never do alone.
But over time, I built a strong circle of support around us - God, family, friends, teachers, my community - and embraced the idea of my village walking this path alongside me.
Of course, there were some challenges I needed to work through on my own. I taught William that although his "hero" could not prevent him from experiencing loss, she would be there to remind him of all the wonderful moments in life that give him joy. He also learned that her village is his village too.
However, I struggled to find books that made the notion easier for my son to understand, so I began writing down the conversations we shared. Over several months, those discussions gradually became a collection of pages that held the tough answers I'd given to someone whose heart I never want to break.
I believe that every child should develop a secure attachment and trust that those closest to them will nurture and guide them, something especially important for our future gentleman to experience. And so, to all the the children of the world, may this story remind you of your village and who you can count on to keep you safe, when you need it the most.
